Is single or married better~~

[andysho]

more and more people are rather staying single then tie the knot

what are the reasons for the increase rate for that?

care to put your comments here

[aStRoBo|]

Marriage..in case u got the urge.. Oh nO!! i got brainwashed!!

[Golden Tooth]

Single is free for all lah.

I don't see the difference. Now with 3 kids, it's like keeping baby Maxima. Depends on how u look at it.

[islander]

imagine.....like our hobby la...two clowns mate,get an offspring then 3 ina company swim 2gether in the reef finding food fighting white spots,getting new neighbours(can be a damsel,cowfish or even a bull shark).papa sick,kana quarantine.hahaha...not bad mah...

[andysho]

that sounds like the popular cartoon show nemo

[Golden Tooth]

U guyz on cartoon?

[fangtooth]

hmmm, if married, save $50 for that...

but then monthly maintanance much much more than the $50.

plus if you sign the wrong 'contract', liowwww..... its like 'kena' probation... if you think NS life sucks, wait till you experience these...its more difficult than reefing.

hehehhe!!!!!!! well, enjoy your singlehood while it last.

[andysho]

wedding cost already can burn a hole in the poclket..hmm

that also depend on how much ang pow money can be collected..that i not sure..me still single

guess the worse thing is applying for a house~~

the downpayment will kill you sia~~~

[sugi]

It just a matter how you manage your time.

I am married and have many hobbies.

Like you guys, i keep marine tank, keep dog and play RC car.

Beside that I also always go "Cheong" 3x a week.

Of course I still spend my time with wife

[islander]

but i think the reason of not getting married are

-fear of commitment(loans and more loans)

-want 2 possess all things in life 1st(a bmw,a condo,a six figure salary and all tat)

-fear of responsibities of having children

-financially not ready.

-wanna hump around 1st,if u noe what i mean!

-last but not least the extreme scenario-homo!

but jus imagine,like my colleague.hes now 46,wife 28,1st son 4yrs,daughter 2 yrs old.when hes son is 16yr,how he'll be?

[weileong]

you're so lucky can go cheong, if I go cheong my wife will chop off my head.

[Golden Tooth]

Must be tactical.

[andysho]

best is to have a "know how to save money" wife

cant imagine have a spenthrift wife sia want this ,want that

"darling ar i want this" just a muack on your face your wallet will reopen its door again

in the end you dun even have money to buy corals muhahha

[weileong]

How to be tactical when you go out at night

"know how to save money wife" ?? like the drama on Ch 8 "living in Toa Payoh" now? heheh

[dradttg]

Just look at Bro Roidan and Seamonkee...

You would want to get marry...got someone to accompany you to set up your tank and going LFSing.

[weileong]

heng my wife follows me to LFS too.

Just leave the landscaping design to her so I won't hear comments like "oh this rock here not nice, this coral should be there etc". Once she is happy then no complains.

[Achilles Tang]

hmmm....IMO, you can get married but still enjoy life like singles. I believe both parties must give each other freedom to grow, pursue own interests, make new friends and not feel restricted by each other. If you can share the same interests, all the better... but if you don't share it, doesn't mean you must clamp down on your partner's interests.

Of course, there will be mutual responsibilities & committment to each other and sharing of burdens & problems... but your life partner cannot become a problem or the marriage will be long-suffering.

I think most marriages take a downturn when one partner or both feel resentful because she/he feels the other is not allowing enoughy freedom/leeway or providing something for him/her.

Communication with each other like how buddies would talk is the key to how things work out in my own marriage.

Anyway... I am the cool patient dude and I balance out my more hot-tempered wifey... if both hot-tempered... sure die one!

[andysho]

wow thats a good advice from a married man kekeke

[[P]owder Blue]

I still prefer to stay on a swinging single

No one to nag at me

No one to control my money

I will get to do whatever I need I deem fit

Reef is my company whenever I feel lonely

[andysho]

i have friends who are over 30 still single

said cannot find, some went to SDU but still useless

got one more like venture business sia.. go until china to find

kekeke come back empty handed

[SpiderOne]

[[P]owder Blue]

is that your cat?

[Octopuffy]

it is better to be single of cuz... u do watever u want, whenever u wan, u dun have to share ur time/money

but if u meet that special someone who u tink u cant live without, then getting married is a bless lor.

[Achilles Tang]

Having a steady and being married... not a lot of diff in terms of personal space and freedom. There will come a stage when you both have to sacrifice something for each other.

[andysho]

perhaps can have A sort of SDU thingy here~~

but i dun think have enought female reefers to satisfy

or match out of the many male reefers here~~