Social Problem - Helping a Friend

[exiled_infidel]

Hi

Its cool this forum has an off topic section.

Anyway, im trying to help a girl-friend out. She's really close to me and we share everything but i need to brainstorm this (relatively) anonymously:

She's been seeing this guy for about 3 months now, going pretty good and all that. no problems there, just the typical relationship.

She gets closer to one of her guy-friends. She's known him for a while but only in the last month have they gotten really close.

Guy-friend confesses to her that he likes her. She realises that she actually likes him too. She feels her own relationship is like being married (they love each other but are not IN love with each other). Guy-friend makes her feel in love and all that.

What should she do? She does honestly think that she and her boyfriend arent that perfect for each other etc, but how should she end it with him if she wants to do that?

The boyfriend, important to note, is very emotional (no, not the type that slashes wrists).

Options we worked out together (although none seem particularly apt in this case:

1) break up with bf citing unable to maintain a rship while studying

2) break up with bf citing theyre not meant to be

3) break up with bf citing that she loves guy-friend

4) take two weeks off from rship with bf citing commitment issues (and see if things would work with guy-friend).

The issue is compounded by the fact that she and bf share the same group of friends.

Its rather quite a pickle. Sigh.

Please help, someone.

Mika

[hammerhd]

Bro

I will suggest option 4 as 1 month with the guy frd is like a honey moon period. U know those type lovely dovely time after that they will know whether the BF or the guy frd is real to her.

[zann]

i think option no.3 . just ask her to be honest and say what she really feel . We should be all mature enough to know what to let go and hold on anyway .