Falling in love again in his twilight years ...

[lizard44]

My friend is a senior uni lecturer. she is his former student.

this !@#!$#@%#%^^ friend is married with kids.

what advice should i give him.

the girl is young, sweet and innocent.

can true love exists?

is he trying an old cow chewing young grass ...

lizard

[ckkoon]

The girl just completed her studies and started working?

[XPeriment 626]

doesn't sound like love, more like lust.

[AlfaRomeo]

The guy is rich I guess and the lady pretty and ######? hehehe

[lizard44]

she is working already but i can't betray her profession. in case they are being embarassed.

lizard

[acidjazz]

The guy is rich I guess and the lady pretty and ######? hehehe

haha. . u are so straight to the point. . but totally agree.

Advise is: nothing much u can do, sit back relax and watch wad happens.

[lizard44]

please lah ...

how can my friend be rich, he is only and still a uni lecturer ...

i knew the girl through him, so i did have a good view of things ...

the girl is intelligent but not as intelligent as my friend, i guess that might be the current handle.

so i should sit back and let things happen ... or tell his wife HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

lizard

[AlfaRomeo]

Or maybe you can blackmail the girl and get the girl instead! JOKING!!!!

[acidjazz]

please lah ...

how can my friend be rich, he is only and still a uni lecturer ...

i knew the girl through him, so i did have a good view of things ...

the girl is intelligent but not as intelligent as my friend, i guess that might be the current handle.

so i should sit back and let things happen ... or tell his wife HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

lizard

Why dun u blackmail him?

Anyway such things do happen. . how many times have you walk in Orchard road and witness a slim, lenghty and stunning girl blessed with good looks hand in hand with a short, plump and bald guy?

[lizard44]

i hope to get advice actually, rather than killer instincts ...

he is after all a good and sincere friend of mine.

i can understand where he stands ... he is sad and balding, to get a fresh breathe of life is something that one might die for ... sigh ... is this lust or love ... i don't quite see.

lizard

[acidjazz]

i hope to get advice actually, rather than killer instincts ...

he is after all a good and sincere friend of mine.

i can understand where he stands ... he is sad and balding, to get a fresh breathe of life is something that one might die for ... sigh ... is this lust or love ... i don't quite see.

lizard

From my point of view, your friend is probably feeling the stress being a bald 50 yrs old, but the presence of a "new love" make him feel young again and the ability to like someone all over again.

Its basically like a drug, unless ur friend realise that he's addicted to it. No advices will get him off the hook.

[lizard44]

you might call it drug, but who doesn't like this drug knowingly.

shouldn't we spare a thought for the girl too ...

isn't it love that brought the girl closer to him ?

will the girl ever regret; will the man ever regret if the wife and kids find out ...

difficult thing this is ...

if this can be contained within their own world i guess they are okie, but i believe they might hurt others along the way ... hence my friend approached me for help.

hard choice.

lizard

[acidjazz]

If u need a psychologist to analyse this situation for you, feel free to drop me a pm.

[hotlemond]

it wont last, and in the end if the world finds out, he will be the biggest looser

[Clownfish]

Age is never an issue in love....

but to love somebody who's married with children whose children is probably older than her now.....

come on... ur friend cannot provide anything to her rite? i mean an eventual happiness not in terms of ###### n money... if they dun plan to realli be together whereby ur friend get a divorce or stg like that, i realli see no point in them tog...

if ur friend truly loves her, prob he shld be telling her to look for somebody more worthy for her love, someone who can provide her with an eventual happiness, a home, a family...

if he dun see this point, well, u noe how he tinks already lor...

[Rex Ng]

negative case

[Lester]

hmmm maybe it is a fated love of the past life ??? ..

[LaW]

yes its a negative case, especially when ur friend already got a wife.

what i can say is. age is just some numbers, what matters lie in the head. and for this situation its what lies in the heart.

tell ur friend this.

observe it, it might be just a crush, that normally goes away in a while.

i got 1 female friend, shes 20+ but married to a 40+ rich GM guy who owns a lotus and bmw.

and another, 20+ married to a 40+ airport clearner

whats this called? L.O.V.E i guessed

however i dun encourage ur friend to keep this going as he already got a wife.

for the young lady, shes still young and got a long way to go. im sure she will have plenty of chances BEING hooked by other guys.

but for the wife with her age, i assumed, very unlikely to get another one.

her wife prone to get hurt real deep for this, unless the wife is the screwed up kind. then i got noting to say.

wat matters lie in the head and heart when comes to these "4 letters" games.

[AquaRa]

i totally agree with LaW.

[cyclop]

My friend is a senior uni lecturer. she is his former student.

this !@#!$#@%#%^^ friend is married with kids.

what advice should i give him.

the girl is young, sweet and innocent.

can true love exists?

Do u have any good and sincere friend who is young, handsome and eligible?

You can try introducing him to this "sweet, young and innocent girl" and encourage him to go after her. By doing so you will be doing something "good" to 3 good friends.

If you qualify, do the necessary yourself!!!! Otherwise, don't get entangled and mess up your own life too.

[lizard44]

yes. he did have kids in age almost similar to his girl friend's.

when a 20+ and 50- get married, it is called LOVE.

when a 20+ and 50- cannot get married, it is called LUST (i guess).

isn't this distinction a little difficult to explain to my friend?

i met them several times. they are different. they do silly things which i can never dreamed of doing myself.

in fact, the temptation was so great, that i don't even mind getting one gf myself.

i guess we expected our wives to be great in bed, great in the hall, great in helping, great in sharing ...

which my friend said couldn't have been possible. based on the research he did and the journals he published, he is one real cunning fox in the academic world. but he didn't go very far because he didn't play enough office politics. otherwise he could be rich and providing. i wonder what the girl truly sees in him.

lizard

[LaW]

and one case.

this friend of mine is 20 this year, shes very "gum" with this uncle 43 years old who is also my friend. they go clubbing together and stuff like that. they do crazy things too. like the girl bitting his butt infront of me, use a pen to draw all over his hands. because the girl is very playful. the gal herself got a handsome bf who i know also. why i know? because the girl used to be my parnter working in a pub. and that uncle is a regular richy rich customer. they dropped by the pub im working together frequently although that lady didnt work there anymore.

somehow i asked her whats with her and that uncle.

she replied, nothing between us. he is somewhat like my sugar daddy.

contridicting? yes it is.

[cyclop]

i met them several times. they are different. they do silly things which i can never dreamed of doing myself.

in fact, the temptation was so great, that i don't even mind getting one gf myself.

i guess we expected our wives to be great in bed, great in the hall, great in helping, great in sharing ...

You seem to give the impression that they were doing those "silly things" infront of you andthey were so "tempting" that you felt like doing the same. Sound worrying!!!! I just wonder whether an "innocent" young thing would do "silly things" with an old man.

Obviously, it's "ILLICIT LUST". As long as it's mutual, there is nothing that others can do about it. Telling is wife will only "help" to destroy his family faster. Let Nature take it course. He will be too old to sustain those "silly acts" and the sweet, young and "innocent" thing will find someone else who can do "it" better.

[LaW]

sorry to say this.

i had not been thru ur age yet as i am only 20 this year, so i dunno what is like for how it feels

but what i know is, we all can avoid it.

it can save a family and troubles.

[lizard44]

how can the girl not feel anything ...

if a girl bites my butt, i am sure the girl is willing but didn't want to sound so unkoof in front of her other guy friends. that i am quite sure. anyway off topic ...

back to my friend: i think to tell him that it is morally wrong for him. he will probably too head-over-heels to listen. i can understand quite badly how he feels ... because i am nearing that age too. at his age, all his kids are grown. even if break-up it is only his wife to talk about. his kids will probably don't give a damn. my friend to a great extent has found a new soul mate. i don't doubt for the moment it is pure lust (i am sure got a bit). sometimes it is frustrating that his superiors wouldn't buy his research quality. he would go drinking with me. now he found some one young and CUTE to xian. he must feel seriously in "love". ... maybe i don't have to do anything, it might come to pass QUICKLY.

i am just concerned for the girl as i now am also a friend too to her ... and my friend ... and both of them talk to me for ADVICE.

lizard